Women, Stop Letting Your Boyfriend Beat Your Children!

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What do Dominique Smith, Jillian Tate, and Chante’ Hays have in common? They were all young women who fell in love, trusted in love and sold-out for love. The sacrifice? Their children. Each woman moved a man into her home.  He was quickly promoted to “Daddy” but the dream didn’t last long.  

The bruises started to appear. The burns.  She noticed the marks, but chose to ignore them because if she confronted him, she feared being abandoned and alone.  Soon after, she rationalized the abuse, lied to herself until she could no longer lie anymore – because her child is now dead; beat to death by the man whom she thought she could trust, whose love she so desperately craved.

Perhaps she feared for her own life. There are more questions than answers, but what is evident is that this is a gross epidemic. If you google “boyfriend kills baby”, you will find an overwhelming amount of cases. Why is this so common and who is really to blame? Is it the mother? That’s an easy target, but I am a firm believer that if something happens repeatedly, then there is something we are missing.

Is it generational trauma? Learned self-hatred? The fact that women grossly outnumber men so many women feel that they don’t have many options. Is it these men and women are only taught one form of love? Toxic.

Whatever the reasons are, children being abused and dying at the hands of mentally disturbed, jealous boyfriends has happened too many times (one time is actually one time too many), so I decided to vlog about it. Share it with someone you think could use it.

 

“Ethnic” Casting Too Much of a Good Thing? What the f%ck does that mean?

Looks like another reporter is about to feel the wrath of Shonda Rhimes and her own army of fans.  Deadline published an article yesterday entitled, “Pilots 2015: The Year Of Ethnic Castings – About Time Or Too Much Of Good Thing?” which inspired Shonda Rhimes to post the cryptic tweet:

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I pride myself on looking at issues from multiple perspectives, but I have to roll with Shonda on this one, if for no other reason that this delusional part of the article:

“Instead of opening the field for actors of any race to compete for any role in a color-blind manner, there has been a significant number of parts designated as ethnic this year, making them off-limits for Caucasian actors, some agents signal.”  – Deadline

Wait?!  What? Some “White” actors feelings are hurt because they are being demoted to equality?  How many times do you think an actor of color was turned down for not having the right skin color?  Yes, the tide is shifting, and it may become extreme for a little while, although I doubt it.  It may just trend, I certainly hope not, but if it is, I encourage all actors of color, myself included, to ride this train out and IF it does end, have enough connections and resources to create your own.  Read the entire Deadline article here.

Do you think “ethnic” casting is too much of a good thing? Share your thoughts below.

 

Empire & the “Black Stereotype” Myth (The Coon Hour) Part 2

Empire & the “Black Stereotype” Myth Part I

And part II is here!  In this episode of “One Chick Army”, I talk more about the word, “coon”. Not only is the hit TV show “Empire” accused of being stereotypical and portraying blacks as criminals, it also gets the “coon” label too. But what exactly is a coon?  More importantly, why is the word so often used against those who create controversial material or go against what “it means to be black”?

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When Keeping It “Free” Goes Wrong: Elton John Boycotting Dolce & Gabbana

This is a touchy one right here.  Mega-pop-singer Elton John is so furious with comments that superstar designers Domenico Dolce and Stefano Gabbana made about in vitro fertilization (IVF) that he is calling for a boycott of their clothing line.

In a recent interview, the designers told Italian magazine Panorama, “No chemical children: life has a natural course, there are things that shouldn’t be modified,”

The boycott has started to gain traction as well, with over 14,000 shares on Twitter including support from fellow celebs Courtney Love and Rickey Martin.

Gabbana’s “right to speak” position gained traction as well with many Instagram supporters showing solidarity for the designers.

I understand this one on both sides.  Dolce and Gabbana’s comments were a bit crude and insensitive to parents who cannot conceive naturally, however, should they be boycotted for speaking their mind?  I worry that social media is becoming more Big Brother and less freedom of expression.  It can also be argued that no one is stopping the designers from speaking their mind just like no one can stop those who feel offended to NOT boycott the designer’s clothing line.  You decide. Click the link below to read more.

http://www.cnn.com/2015/03/15/living/feat-elton-john-dolce-gabbana/index.html

 

Empire & the Myth of the “Black Stereotype” Pt. 1

Saying that the “Empire” TV show is stereotypical and coonery is an easy accusation to make and has a host of supporters.  I see why, the show has all of the elements and representations of which many people of color try to distance themselves.  But are these accusations true or are they just myths?

Labeling “Empire” stereotypical removes the need of accountability by throwing a veil over the problems and obstacles that truly affect many people of color. It puts “black” artists in an unattainable position of needing to be perfect while shaming them for being human and flawed. Hit play below to watch and then check out Part II of my Empire rant here.

 

Are Women Too Possessive (Stalkerish) in Relationships?

You know how the story usually goes. Girl meets boy. Girl likes boy. Boy likes girl. After the first date, girl starts planning her wedding. If there is a second, third, fourth, etc. date, Girl often puts a collar on boy. Are women too possessive in relationships? Do we have often show up more like a stalker vs. a lover? Controlling women and men seems to be a form of love? Questions! Questions!

How does this happen? How do so many women end up behaving their partner’s owner instead of an equal mate? And, why is it often so hard to let when it is over? Hit play below and let me know your thoughts!