Being Vulnerable is NOT a Sign of Weakness…

There is this strange belief that if a person expresses a fear or an insecurity, that means that person is weak. I cannot tell you how many times I have been in a situation where ideas ore being exchanged, the atmosphere becomes relaxed, I express a fear of mine and it suddenly turns into a therapy session…one I didn’t sign up for.

I was just recently in a situation where someone did this. And honestly, I couldn’t blame anyone but myself, because this person has shown time and time again that when I express a vulnerability, it is their cue to tell who I am and what I don’t know.

I felt angry and targeted, so I set a boundary and quickly ended the exchange. After I talked to a very close friend of mine about the incident, I really began to wonder where this line of thinking comes from and realized that those who believe this the strongest seem to be the most messed up and tend to offer the most unsolicited advice.

So for those who may have felt shamed and attacked by someone who sees admitting vulnerability as an opportunity to critically judge and analyze you, here are a few benefits of staying vulnerable and open:

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A History of Riots: It Ain’t Just Black Folks (Baltimore Riots)…

scroll-video-2Okay, so I know I said I was done talking about “race” and I meant it…until I saw the news coverage of the Baltimore, Maryland riots.  Did y’all catch some of the biased reporting that was going on?  The words “criminals” and “thugs” rolled off of some people’s tongue so easy you would have thought it was a song.

I was watching and reading a lot of these comments thinking, “The people of Baltimore are not the first to riot.”   Furthermore, all rioters were not people of color, hell, most of them were not.  So why is it that “black” people seemed to condemned for it the most?  Hit play below to watch the video and share your thoughts.

F*ck Your Childhood! Why I Have No Remorse for Bullies and Perpetrators…

scroll-video-2I don’t know if it just coincidence or intentional, but a string of videos showing teenagers attacking innocent bystanders have been floating around on Facebook lately.  The one that really pulled at heartstrings and even my trigger finger was the one with the three boys jumping one girl over a cellphone and then started bragging about it.

I felt a rage I have not felt in a very long time and it brought up so much: Memories from my own childhood, sadness for the youth who have to go through school with the possibility that normal adolescent experiences may become viral videos, abnormal adolescent experiences like being jumped by three boys.  I felt confused and angry.  I have a huge amount of compassion for misguided youth, but what about those that fall in the other lane…the sociopathic lane.? The lane where they terrorize and victimize others without an ounce of remorse?  The lane where they are put in diversion programs, but still come out and continue the same behavior?  The latter is tougher for me to extend my compassion.

And then there are the adults, who because of some unfortunate circumstances in their own childhoods grew up to be perpetrators/bullies.  At what point is there true accountability when chance after chance after chance has been given?  I realize that this is a sensitive subject to some, but where I am right now is FUCK YOUR CHILDHOOD if you choose to intentionally and consistently harm others with no regard for life.  This is not what I signed up for.  Hit play to watch the video below and share your thoughts.